Forgiveness can mean many things. To some it means allowing someone to get away with wrongdoing by dropping your axe to grind about the subject–it can mean forgetting pain & anguish to move on with your life–or you can consider the loving words of our creator. Yahuwah not only loves us unconditionally; he wants us to improve and better ourselves. Sin isn’t an unforgivable offense–it means missing the mark. Missing the mark means you have opportunity to improve.
Life can become a selfish wasteland where everyone focuses solely on themselves and don’t even recognize that other people even have needs. Other people wrong them daily by not giving them what they want. Communication can break down and suddenly our sense of community, support and having cover is eroded. All it takes to turn that around is recognizing what is asked of us: we aren’t here to please everyone; we are here to love and encourage each other even when things seem rough.
Forgiveness truly means releasing the bitterness in your heart–allowing yourself the ability to have a quality life through high standards, which includes letting go of anger and hate. Not keeping crappy people in your life; but choosing not to hate or condemn them. To move past the situations where we have “missed the mark,” we must truly repent. “But if a wicked person turns away from all the sins they have committed and keeps all my decrees and does what is just and right, that person will surely live; they will not die. None of the offenses they have committed will be remembered against them.” Ezekiel 18: 21-22 (NIV)
Fake apologies, artificial promises, and flowery words don’t go far: “So I thought it necessary to urge the brothers to visit you in advance and finish the arrangements for the generous gift you had promised. Then it will be ready as a generous gift, not as one grudgingly given. Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” 2 Corinthians 9: 5-7 (NIV)– –loving action is the only way to prove the good intent of your heart. Hating yourself for messing up–or someone else for not being perfect is a no-win situation. Just don’t lower your standards to include everyone in your life because it seems like the right thing to do! You do need to judge your surroundings and commit to the standards set forth by our creator.